The girl you just called ugly might be having troubles at home. She might be getting beaten up by her step-dad or she might be getting forced to run chores which are twice as much as her body weight by her step-mom. She might be going through a trauma due to her dreams being at the verge of getting shattered into pieces.
The boy you just called fat might be already struggling with his body.
It might be his most insecure and weakest point that you just triggered. He might already hold crying sessions in the bathroom to a point of suffocation. Because boys are not supposed to cry in public, right? They could die in the desperation of never being good enough and the exasperation of bullying but oh no, boys don’t cry!ย It’s against the rules.
The joke you made on a single innocent poor soul to make everyone around you laugh and to increase your popularity made great success but that one person it was made on is going to cry themselves to sleep tonight. It must have ruined that one person’s day or week or month or their whole life. Some scars never heal. They’re going to be in their room, all by themselves, crying and hopeless. Because oh well it’s just a joke and if they took it too seriously then aren’t they themselves are the ones who have gone insane? They’re definitely the ones to blame. The cool person, spare him. He is innocent. He just made a joke on someone on what they have no control on. Even if they did, would it prove to be any good?
Trust me when I say this, not everyone around you is as confident as you are. They are not too sure of their abilities or even sure at all. Many of us have insecurities we don’t like to be pointed at about. If that does happen, it makes us question our whole existence. You need to understand some of us might be going through an extremely bad phase in life and your “jokes” only make it worse. You need to get that it’s not just one thing that makes someone depressed or suicidal, there are a number of things. A collection of such things. And if your “joke” about the way they look, act, talk or walk. How much they weigh. What do they ride and where do they live, aided that collection . Would you ever be able to forgive yourself? Would you ever be able to meet your own eyes in the mirror?
Would your joke still be funny?
This should be read by as many people as possible. Bullying is a serious issue, but at times the matter may not even be as dire as bullying and the joke could still have an immensely negative effect on the person. I guess we often over look the consequences of our words. Thank you for this!
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Yes, exactly! Always such a pleasure reading your comments. Thank you โค
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Very deep and thoughtful post! I look forward to your future blog posts. ๐
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Thank you Saira. I look forward to your comments. Stay lovely โค
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very well done!
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Thank you Irum baji. โค
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It’s great that your first post is about this pressing issue, I completely agree with everything you said and the problem is that it usually has more to do with the bully than the bullied. Bullies only project their own insecurities onto seemingly weaker people so that they may gain validation by their peers in the areas they are worried about falling short in. It’s very important to educate as many people as possible about this so that the bullied can actually stand up to their antagonists and face them with the truth they (the antagonists) are too cowardly to acknowledge, and it is also just as important to form a safe community where people feel comfortable being a little bit more vulnerable. I think if we tone down the need for a society wherein everyone needs to keep their shit together 24/7 we’ll have a few less things to worry about! Well done Zoha, and I can’t wait to see what you’ll write about next ๐ โค
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I agree with every word in your comment! Thank you so much, love. โค
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Keep up the good work, Z. This is amazing. God bless you!
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Thank you. You are too kind!<3
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Zoha thats really sound super verisom. Each and every thing belongs to reality. Superb cool.
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Thank you Mehak. โค It means a lot!
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No problem there. ๐
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all the brutal pages of brutal life with boiled words
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Awesome ๐
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Thanks a bunch. Means a lot. I hope to see your comments on the future posts. ๐
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I am guilty of doing such jokes and now when i passed my college and near to finish my bachelors i still feel bad about that and i don’t know how to apologize for it. But i always tell others that one day will come when you will feel sorry for your jokes but say sorry now and stop it.
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You’ve already apologized by realizing your mistake and telling others not to do that. We all make mistakes. What actually matters is how you deal with it after you realize. Thanks for reading ๐
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